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Ashley Stanford
Jessica Kingsley Publishers; 1 edition (December 20, 2002)
Medicine & Health Sciences
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Ashley Stanford is married to a man with Asperger Syndrome, and her book provides . Including many quotes from people in long-term AS relationships, the book describes many positive solutions that have worked for other couples.

Ashley Stanford is married to a man with Asperger Syndrome, and her book provides the answers to many of the questions asked by the increasing number of people in that situation. She explains how behaviours that may have appeared odd - or even downright irritating - are the manifestation of AS, and shows how understanding can lead to greater tolerance, or to change.

Start by marking Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships as Want to Read . Ashley Stanford is married to a man with Asperger Syndrome, and her book provides the answers to many of the questions asked by the increasing number of people in that situation.

Start by marking Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships as Want to Read: Want to Read savin. ant to Read. She explains how behaviors that may have appeared odd - or even downright irritating - are the manifestation of AS, and shows how understanding can lead to greater tolerance or to change.

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Home Browse Books Book details, Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships. Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships. I myself have thought about writing a book on AS and interpersonal relationships for quite some time, because I am the AS half of a successful Asperger l marriage and because I enjoy writing. Over 14 million journal, magazine, and newspaper articles.

Happily married to her husband with Asperger Syndrome for 25 years, Ashley Stanford is an expert on how Autism Spectrum .

Based on numerous stories about Asperger's and long-term relationships, this book continues to serve as a valuable resource for clinicians, adults with AS and their partners alike.

Stanford's book provides a wealth of strategies for living with the more uncompromising aspects of ASD, pointing out that ASD also brings enormous strengths to a relationship.

Items related to Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships. Ashley Stanford has worked as a technical writer for 11 years and has published many technical guides, teacher guides, parent guides and children's activity books. Ashley Stanford Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships. ISBN 13: 9781843107347. Her husband and her two sons have Asperger Syndrome.

First published in 2002. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.
  • Don't buy this book. It's well-intentioned, but destructive in its treatment of its subject matter. I'm not even going to donate it anywhere because I don't want anyone to be as disheartened as I was. I nearly broke up with my partner after reading this book, because it made me feel like I was going to have to compromise everything I know I need and want from a relationship just to be with him, just to "manage" his autism. Luckily, we are both adults and this led to a very helpful conversation, but my partner was pretty offended by the passages I read to him.

    I was desperate for information on how to learn to deal with my partner's autism. This turned out to be a textbook about how to lower your expectations and learn to live without the things you need and desire from a romantic relationship-- how to fool yourself into feeling fulfilled. My partner is relatively low on the spectrum, so your mileage may vary, but I found this almost offensively condescending at times to his intelligence and unique way of thinking. Remember, if you are in a relationship with someone-- even someone on the spectrum-- it is not your job to structure their daily lives. It is not your job to selflessly and tirelessly craft your home life so that your partner's every need is met. It is not your job to ALWAYS be the one to sacrifice, to ALWAYS have your partner's needs ahead of yours.

    Ms. Stanford writes a very personal book, but recall that that's what it is-- PERSONAL. For her. She has done extensive armchair research but she is not a medical or psychiatric professional. PLEASE, if you have questions about how to be in a relationship with an autistic partner, CONSULT SOMEONE WITH MEDICAL TRAINING who is familiar with autistic adults. The book is also outdated--the author admits at the time this book was written, there was far more information available about autistic children than adults (in fact, the term "Aspergers" itself has become less popular these days in favor of simply "on the spectrum"). This is still true, but there's more these days.

    Even more than the condescending to autistic partners, even more than the implication that I should set aside my happiness or tirelessly search for creative new ways to feel fulfilled in a relationship, I was disappointed in the author's treatment of sex. To be honest, being neurotypical, sex with an autistic person was the most confusing and disorienting part of my new relationship. How do you have sex with someone who does not respond to physical cues, who is not going to be in tune with your "vibes" or read your body language? How do you initiate sex with someone who doesn't pick up signals? How do you keep things romantic and sexy when you have to be direct about your needs? How do you know your partner likes what you're doing when they themselves are not very expressive? This book answers none of those questions-- there is literally ONE PAGE about sex. And it's very squeamish in its treatment of the subject. And set aside the stuff I said earlier about Ms. Stanford not being a medical professional-- this is where I could have REALLY used some practical advice from someone who's been through it.

    Really made me sad, especially after reading all the reviews posted here.

  • This book contained lots of good information, but it reads like a reference book. I appreciate this is a broad broad topic and a lot of data is necessary to cover Asperger's effectively. However, the author stated she was a tech writer by day, and I think that shows throughout the book. Not that that's bad, but as I noted, it makes the book work better as a reference tool rather than something to read from cover to cover. Also, I don't exactly remember if she addressed this, but I don't think she was explicit regarding why she dated and married her husband - aside from him being a hard worker and always gainfully employed. This is genuine curiosity, not sarcasm. Also, I'm curious given her descriptions of her husband's habits and patterns, why she thought he would make a good father excluding perhaps financial stability. Again, genuine curiosity. I've read other books by wives of Asperger men, but have never really a satisfactory answer to either of these questions.

  • I wanted to read material that would allow me to understand my spouse's behavior in such a way that I could better understand him, without an knee jerk reaction of anger or resentment. Although he has never been diagnosed, he seems to have some moderate symptoms in common with Aspies, and because of that, I can begin to gain a new perspective, with the help of this book, about him and what makes him tick the way he does. I have determined, for my purposes, that there are many gradations of any diagnosis, and that recognition of a pattern of his traits, even if mild in degree, helps me put aside my usual tendency to take things personally, but rather to see that he is just operating in accordance to a very different perspective of the world, one that is highly sensitive to sensory input, oblivious of public scrutiny, and without a doubt, keenly intelligent and creative in its own way. Reading this book has been a very helpful exercise.

  • This book is terrific. It really does a nice job explaining why and where issues may occur and provides short case references to illustrate either the issue or the solution. Even though the DSM V has changed the diagnosis requirements, tying each topic back to the DSM IV criteria makes everything so clear. This can be used for any long term relationship, not just couples, although the author uses her relationship with her husband as an example at times. All family members and employers (especially those who don't "get" the diagnosis) can get a clearer understanding of where things seem to go astray.

  • Stanford explains the technical definiton of an Aspie spouse in a thoughtful, useful and kind way. I had suspected my husband was AS, but I never could quite put my finger on it. She covers it so in depth that it helped me figure out what aspects of it I was missing. I wish I could email her and thank her. She's improved the quality of my marriage in a way no counsleor ever has been able to. Just wish I could have read it years ago.

  • I enjoyed this book but it got a little too think at times for me with the 'jargon'. I did appreciate the authors perspective as she is married a man with Aspergers. This is the entire reason I continued to read the book even when it got technical. I would recommend it to anyone living with and or living with someone who has this syndrome, very informative and a wealth of knowledge about a condition that has been largely ignored for over a decade.

  • I thought the book gave some good insight and perspective to partners of people with Asbergers. It is difficult to find material on adult issues that come up with this syndrome and many relationships may be saved if a loved knew what the symptoms may look like in an adult's marriage.
    I would recommend this book to significant others as must reading.